If you are going through a divorce and you have children together with your spouse, this can be the most complicated and difficult experience of your life. It is important to take things slowly, take the time to think about what your goals are for your children and yourself, think about the needs of your children (and your own) and consider carefully how you and your spouse might work together to ensure a smooth transition to a new lifestyle for your children as well as yourselves as you go through the divorce process. Custody issues also come up between unmarried parents and the concerns are the same. Consistency, care, love, comfort and stability. These are all things parents seek for their children, especially during this extremely difficult time of divorce or separation.